Working through Anger from Death: Affirmations for Kids Under 10

When someone special dies, kids may feel a swirl of emotions that can be hard to explain. Sometimes sadness turns into tears, but other times it feels like fire in the chest or yelling at people who didn’t do anything wrong. For kids under 10, this anger is not “bad.” It’s simply another way of missing and loving deeply.

Kids might feel upset or confused about why the person is gone. It’s okay for children to have these feelings—they show that they care deeply. Helping kids recognize and talk about anger can open the door to healing.

Working through Anger from Death: Affirmations for Kids Under 10

• Each day, I can try to be kind to myself no matter what I feel.

• I have people who listen and want to help me.

• When I feel angry, I can squeeze a toy or hug my favorite blanket.

• My feelings help me understand how much I loved someone.

• Big feelings are normal when big things happen.

• My feelings are important, and I can share them with someone I trust.

• It’s okay to feel angry, and I can find ways to calm down.

• Talking about my feelings helps me feel better.

• Even when I'm really mad, I am still a good kid.

• I can draw pictures to show what I feel inside.

Growing Through Grief

Young children who experience death-related anger are learning one of life's most difficult lessons at a very tender age. With patient, loving support and regular use of gentle affirmations, they can develop emotional skills that will serve them throughout their lives.

The goal isn't to eliminate their anger or rush them through grief. The goal is to help them understand that their feelings are normal, that they are loved and supported, and that they have the strength to carry both their love and their sadness as they continue to grow.

Every child's grief journey is unique, but with consistent love, honest communication, and gentle guidance, they can learn to honor their special person while building a life filled with joy, connection, and resilience.

Remember: Their anger is love that needs a safe place to land. You can be that safe place.